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Marriage, Obsolete?

Is marriage becoming obsolete?

Author: Tif

Over the past few days I have heard many folks saying that “marriage is becoming less important,” “there’s no reason to get married anymore,” I will never get married, what’s the point?” Well, after looking at both sides, I conclude that there is a point.

The fact of the matter is that people have already had sex, they’ve had children and they are living on and off together….once you have done this for years, it used to be a common law marriage. Fact of the matter is, you are supposed to stand before God and commit yourself to each other before having sex and children. Today we find that doesn’t happen and yet people want to live together and that today is what substitutes being married; living together for three to five days a week back and fourth between each partners house.

It has become that as long as desires are being fulfilled, nothing else matters. Marriage to the younger generation is obsolete. Everyone wants to be married without the title. Live together, share finances, share a bed, have sex, have children and the “perks” of being married but the exchange of the last name is ‘death.’ I have yet to understand that concept! Pretending, “we are one,” but not able to face God with it. That, says a lot to me.

I view this as doing a half ass job, putting in half the work is all that is being done here. Simply, it is making half of a commitment. This is part of what is wrong with children today, broken homes and damaged parenting. We aren’t teaching children the concept of family and showing them what a family is and what a family does for each other. They do not know what a family means in the eyes of God. Instead we show them, multiple partners in and out of the home, bouncing from house to house every other night, letting them believe that this behavior is okay.

I understand that mistakes happen, some people get together and don’t stay together. But, I don’t believe that this is the situation. Here, people are having one night stands, not even in relationships when they have sex or are in relationships for a short time and having unprotected sex. People know that they aren’t going to be together and don’t want to be together, yet, want to have sex, children and claim someone as their ‘baby daddy.’ Then they want child support and want their ‘baby daddy’ to get lost and never see their child. They feel entitled, like someone owes them something. All of a sudden someone is a pain in their side, like they weren’t just bed hopping and cheating on each other. Like they didn’t know how much of a relationship they did not have! Really, what the heck? What sense does any of this make.

I sometimes wonder if society is at a lost or if it can be saved! I would just like to ask, “What is so fearing about marriage?” “Why is it treated like a nightmare?”

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Quit Putting Off For Tomorrow

Quit Putting Off For Tomorrow

Author: Tif

I am sick of people talking about, “I am gonna change,” “I can’t wait ’til 2012,” “I am going to start….” Well when are you going to start????? Not next year! Do it now or hush about it!

Why does everyone think that there will be a tomorrow!? Tomorrow might be the ice age;  hell might freeze over or the world may go up in flames…which ever way you believe the world will end, we won’t debate that here. However, the next morning is never promised, fix your life today! Quit saying “tomorrow I will,” “next year I will,” when you can say, “today I will, today I am.”

There is so many things that people put off thinking that they have tomorrow; kiss your parents today, visit your family today, start school today, get a job today! Quit wasting time! Time is the one thing that you can never get back. Don’t punch out for the end of shift, punch out for a break and then get back to it. Spend your time wisely. We all get a little worn, but that doesn’t equal giving up and quitting. What can be accomplished when you give up and quit; nothing? Right!

These New Year’s Resolutions are goals and commitments that a person makes, saying, “I will make a habit. The thing some are missing is that hourly and daily resolutions can be formed!!!!! A habit is something that comes from doing a task all the time. A goal is something that you think of and say, “hey I want to achieve this.” A commitment is the follow through of the goal and/or habit, accomplishing what you say you will accomplish. So, there is nothing to it but to do it!

Think of the present, not the future. So stop it with the tomorrow I will, in 2012 I will, in 2013 I will….that says, “I will NEVER!” Live for today. Do it today. Accomplish today!

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Prison Sentence

Author: Tif

Conrad Murray is sentenced to four years in jail??? What message does this send? Do we really believe that this was involuntary? Why are people getting these slaps on the wrist these days? Oh, because jails are “overcrowded.”

The fact that we keep throwing out that jails are overcrowded is why everyone is killing, because they KNOW that they will not remain in jail long if at all! In this case we all know that Murray will serve all of 1.5 to 2 years in prison and be out roaming! However if it was a typical doctor that works in the Emergency Room, he would be under the jail or on death row. Heck, a drug dealer that has never murdered (or at least a murder can’t be proven) receives a more severe sentence than Murray was handed. This disturbs me as much as the Coach Paterno situation. Individuals need to be held accountable for their decisions and mistakes. Any average citizen has to be held accountable, why not those of fame who should be setting better examples for those who idolize them?

This man could not have cared about his patient if he had the time to record his death on a cell phone. He knew what he was doing, it was no accident and the fact that he lied about it, ruins his character. He does not belong in the medical/health care profession at all. The way that he practiced profession cause a life to be taken and I do believe that he hasn’t shed a genuine tear about it since the occurrence.

Luckily, he wasn’t given probation. If that would have been the outcome, I would not have been shocked. What type of criminal justice system does America have not holding people accountable. Murray took a life, regardless of how it is twisted, the outcome is the same. He needs to serve ALL FOUR years in state prison. Giving special treatment to the well known and famous has got to stop!

Do you believe that this murder was intentional? Do you feel that he should serve all four years of his sentence? Should a more severe punishment have been given?

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Relations-hips-

Relationships

Author: Tif

So, everyone wants to talk about relationship now. But, what is a relationship, really? Is it just to shack up and cuddle, just to grind hips and get it in, or do you really want someone that you can care about and trust? This whole cuffing season thing, let’s get real, cause it’s cold outside you need someone to lay next to you and have sex with? Half of everybody is way to old to be talking ’bout some cuffing season, especially at 30 and 40! Get on with all that! Do you want a relationship or are you trying cuff some pussy? ‘Cause they are two different things, not interchangeable!

I just can’t comprehend how someone can tell me, “I need a boo, I really want a relationship” and then turn around in the same breath and say “I need to get to cuffin’.” That ish ain’t the same! Are you serious? In my book someone you cuff is around from December until March, yall share a bed a few nights a week, have sex and go separate ways in the morning. That by no means is a true bond, a relationship….a fuckship…not a relationship. Cuffing=fucking plain and smiple.

A relationship requires more time than a night, more emotions than 30 minutes and more heart than an orgasm. It requires you to actually know more about the person that you spend time with than a first name, telephone number and favorite song. ‘Cause you can’t trust that the person you cuffin’ is only talking to you, if you do you a fool. You can’t trust that the person you cuffin’ is only having sex with you, if you do you a bigger fool. You can’t trust that they actually love you ’cause then you the biggest fool. So when you’re cuffed don’t be confused between a fuckship which last three months and a relationship,which most of the time, unless you’re on the Kim K. ish, lasts longer.

I’ll give those that disagree with me the opportunity to correct me and give me an explanation as to what cuffin’ is, put me up on game! Is there a difference between cuffin’ and a relationship? Is my understanding of cuffin’ off?

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Pageants

Pageants

Author: Tif

I know everyone thinks that their child is the most amazing, beautiful, doll in the world. Entering your child in baby beauty contest, it’s not a problem…well it didn’t use to be. Now, we have these shows “Princess’ in Tiaras” and everything else that just prove how ridiculous the world has become!

There is NO reason that a four-year-old should have on make-up, a fake butt and 3 inch heels! Need I repeat a FOUR-year-old!  Yes your baby is cute, but she does not need to be prancing around in make-up and heels with a fake butt! That is the reason half of these females are the way that they are now. You have her thinking that she is the best thing since sliced bread and the coldest thing since milk in a carton, cussing you out on public television. That ain’t cute! The older she gets the worst it will get, believe or not, you’ll see what I mean soon.

Let’s be honest when your four-year-old child is cussing and screaming at you, telling you how they don’t like their hair and demanding that you undo what you just did and redo it; when she’s eight she’ll threaten you and have a knife at your throat until you redo her make-up and buy her a new dress cause she changed her mind and no longer likes it! Be a fool now if you want to. Or stand up to your child! (Unless she learned her ways from you?!) Honestly, there are folks that aren’t on television that could use this suggestion.

You create your child, your child learns and picks up on every detail and aspect of what he/she is around. Hopefully, your child doesn’t watch these shows. There are ways and then there are ways. Your baby can be beautiful and fashionable without being a stuck up demon! The way these “princess’” scream I view them as hideous. At the age of four a pageant should be fun…not a real competition. The competition part comes in with the parents, which is why it’s their fault that these children act the way that they do! The fact that they see nothing wrong with it…makes it all the more pitiful!

I remember being in pageants and contest and ’til this day my mouth and attitude aren’t as awful as these kids today. My momma would’ve backhanded me so fast I would’ve spun around the world and back in 2.5 seconds! And upon arrival back, I better not speak a word! Oh well. As far as I am concerned beauty should be fun and influential. I absolutely do not understand the meaning of these crazy shows, to make the parents look foolish, maybe?Am I the only one that thinks it is ridiculous?

Really, since when did the child beauty pageant and baby contest industry become harshly competitive instead of fun and a learning experience? And why?

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