Is marriage becoming obsolete?
Author: Tif
Over the past few days I have heard many folks saying that “marriage is becoming less important,” “there’s no reason to get married anymore,” I will never get married, what’s the point?” Well, after looking at both sides, I conclude that there is a point.
The fact of the matter is that people have already had sex, they’ve had children and they are living on and off together….once you have done this for years, it used to be a common law marriage. Fact of the matter is, you are supposed to stand before God and commit yourself to each other before having sex and children. Today we find that doesn’t happen and yet people want to live together and that today is what substitutes being married; living together for three to five days a week back and fourth between each partners house.
It has become that as long as desires are being fulfilled, nothing else matters. Marriage to the younger generation is obsolete. Everyone wants to be married without the title. Live together, share finances, share a bed, have sex, have children and the “perks” of being married but the exchange of the last name is ‘death.’ I have yet to understand that concept! Pretending, “we are one,” but not able to face God with it. That, says a lot to me.
I view this as doing a half ass job, putting in half the work is all that is being done here. Simply, it is making half of a commitment. This is part of what is wrong with children today, broken homes and damaged parenting. We aren’t teaching children the concept of family and showing them what a family is and what a family does for each other. They do not know what a family means in the eyes of God. Instead we show them, multiple partners in and out of the home, bouncing from house to house every other night, letting them believe that this behavior is okay.
I understand that mistakes happen, some people get together and don’t stay together. But, I don’t believe that this is the situation. Here, people are having one night stands, not even in relationships when they have sex or are in relationships for a short time and having unprotected sex. People know that they aren’t going to be together and don’t want to be together, yet, want to have sex, children and claim someone as their ‘baby daddy.’ Then they want child support and want their ‘baby daddy’ to get lost and never see their child. They feel entitled, like someone owes them something. All of a sudden someone is a pain in their side, like they weren’t just bed hopping and cheating on each other. Like they didn’t know how much of a relationship they did not have! Really, what the heck? What sense does any of this make.
I sometimes wonder if society is at a lost or if it can be saved! I would just like to ask, “What is so fearing about marriage?” “Why is it treated like a nightmare?”
